Valentines Day

A friend posted this ananymous quote on her facebook wall today: "Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart." ~ Author Unknown. It prompted me to write the following book as a "comment" in response. Fortunately for me, she is a beautiful, patient and tolerant person. "True statement, but there are a lot of special people in the world. I don't know why, but Sandy fell head over heels for me and she let everyone know it. She is the type that didn't see how many she could get to like her. She picked out one and that was it. Being a typical guy (a walking talking hormone), I wasn't about to pass by someone as drop dead gorgeous. It was beauty and the beast. I didn't know why she liked me and she didn't match all the things on my list (the list of requirements singles have for the right person), but I wasn't about to blow this because she was HOT! (I confessed I was the typical guy jerk.) ... By no skill of my own, I got extremely lucky! ... About 6 yrs after we were married, I over heard two singles comparing their requirements list and I noticed I felt uncomfortable. Then I realized that I didn't love Sandy because she met the items on my list. For the most part she didn't, but those lists are born in naïveté. I loved her for her dreams, what she wanted to be and how she treated people. Since that realization, more and more I've realized how many beautiful women there are! (I hope this doesn't come out wrong. I've always been faithful to her.) As I look back, I can even see how beautiful some of the girls I dated were, but I didn't see it because I was an ignoramus with a list. Sorry, I'm writing a book to say it takes a special person, but there are lots of special persons." I replicated this here because I have often reflected upon that moment. To me, that was a significant realization, but there is an irony in it. Now I realize I dated some very beautiful women before I met Sandy. If I had realized this sooner, we probably would not have met. There are some blessings in ignorance. A further irony is that while I realize my luck and love tonight, I feel compassion for beautiful friends who are single, lonely and have a list of what they think would make them happy.